I had a couple of Kilkenny pints last Sunday at The Social, with fellow blogging buddies endroo and tihtahpah, together with a bunch of my Irish colleagues in Bangsar. Tihtahpah asked my thoughts on the process of flirting. So here it goes:
I believe the art of flirting simply implies a frivolous communication that makes daily interactions more thrilling. 
Nothing is invested, because there are no feelings involved. But boundaries have to be set, as it may go beyond hyperbolic levels. If it’s not in your nature to flirt, then please don’t, as what you construe as inoffensive may freak people out. And no biting please. 
I flirt on an innocuous level but with some unspoken boundaries to maintain a friendly spirit. And with selected women only, women who know how to flirt back without throwing feelings into the frying pan. It’s significant to acknowledge the true nature of flirting. If there’s any hint of a one-sided or inappropriate fondness developing, then one should stop the flirtation process with that person before it becomes unmanageable, and ultimately, breaking the friendship. 
Your thoughts?
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January 19th, 2007 at 1:20am
You didn’t invite me
January 19th, 2007 at 7:43am
yo dan…drinking with you was fun man! i wonder if our ‘frens’ hit it off?
. And i agree that you gotta choose the fellas carefully…or else it might be a flirt-gone-bad.
I do believe flirting is an art that requires much skill and practise even…the idea is not to READ TOO much into anything or else it just takes the fun out of flirting
January 19th, 2007 at 9:37am
Flirting makes the world go round. And yeap, choosing the right person to flirt with can be disgustingly fun. Especially if said person is as good a flirter as you are
January 19th, 2007 at 10:09am
flirting is FUN. it’s like playing with fire for me tho, coz u know, i’m married. teehee.
January 19th, 2007 at 2:09pm
You couldn’t have said it better.
January 19th, 2007 at 2:18pm
hongkiat Didn’t realize, next time I will. But make sure you answer your crappy mobile phone!
tihtahpah I had a good time drinking with you and endroo too. And especially the Kilkenny Tickle.
Well, flirting to me is a natural process that needs fine-tuning so it doesn’t go awry.
Jen Me a good flirter? LOL. You haven’t tried me yet.
Larawannabe Marriage takes away a lot of fun in return with “different” fun, but as long as you’re happy, then I’m happy.
JACQ Yes yes, and that’s what I shall be doing when I come a knocking to KK in May if it doesn’t clash w my exam dates. Let’s meet then, shall we? Don’t worry, I won’t flirt on you cause you’re taken.
January 19th, 2007 at 2:21pm
Goddamn another snap.com user.
January 19th, 2007 at 2:21pm
You already said what I want to say..chewah
January 19th, 2007 at 2:49pm
Its easier said than done. Usually we won’t know when the other party throws in emotions into it until it’s too late. But I must say it’s a thrilling thing….some you can connect intellectually while others you might need to do “I need to go to the washroom for a bit, excuse me” and promptly find the door that says exit.
January 19th, 2007 at 3:01pm
Has anyone seen Casino Royale? I like the flirt scene between Bond and…damn I can’t remember her name…on the train.
I think with flirting, less is always more and timing is imperative. The more you are able to master knowing how much and when then the flirting becomes more fun.which also catches the attention of the receiver. Light teasing? Innuendos? How did you say it? What words did you use? Does the receiver understand flirting? I think flirting reflects the level of EQ and IQ.
I also think flirting should be maintained in a marriage or long term relationship. Have you ever wondered why in the beginning flirting is so easy then as two people stay together for a long time it dwindles? How can flirting be maintained for people who have been together for awhile?
Hmmmmmmmmm
January 19th, 2007 at 4:11pm
ShaolinTiger Amen!
Che-Cheh I did? Yes yes, last night u came in my dreams as Chester.
Rauff Indeed Rauff. And thanks for dropping by!
Rudy Casino Royale was DA BOMB! Pure testosterone and none of that gayness portrayed by previous Bonds.
I agree, timing is crucial and also the other party’s openness. 
Don’t think flirting can be maintained for people who have been together for a while, that’s where they just rely on love and commitment. Zestless. 
January 20th, 2007 at 12:46pm
I think that effort should exerted to keep the flirting going in a long term relationship. It’s probably challenging but will keep the relationship spicy.
Why should the spice go down just because of time?
January 20th, 2007 at 8:45pm
I agree with you. Flirting is just adding a little bit of fun to a conversation or interaction, as long as it doesn’t get out of hand and ruin friendships, marriages or relationships